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Life with 4 neuroexceptional kids on different places of the spectrum.

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July 2015

Why My Kids Thought Pixels was the Greatest

Pixels was one of the movies of summer that my four children (ages 13, 11, 11 and 8) have been waiting to see after being in hysterics every time they saw the previews. My twins were 6 before we even attempted to see a movie in the theatre – since then, we have been frequent attendee’s. There is something about the dark cloak of the theatre that enables them to barely move a muscle during a 2-hour movie; despite being hardly able to sit still for 5 minutes anywhere else. 

It opened today and after reading some of the less than stellar reviews, I wasn’t expecting much. However, as is often the case with my kids , it became obvious that my twins were seeing something more during the opening flashback scene where the  young Adam Sandler and Kevin James talked about seeing patterns in the retro video games. It highlighted seeing things differently than other people. Following that intro – where it got a little awkward when we were introduced to the present day adults; they continued to follow the progression of the “nerds” saving the planet. 

I could understand why there were so many negative reviews such as casting choices; unrealistic scenes beyond the storyline (Josh Gad – the voice of Olaf in Frozen being forefront in several of those) and other inconsistencies. I usually don’t put a lot of faith in reviews when selecting one to take my kids to. The one thing that reviews CANNOT predict, is the value of the movie itself on my children. In the case of Pixels, the value was in the connection of the characters and how they were “different”. They connected to the love of video games and the characters contained therein. They connected to Adam Sandler who they find hilarious from watching Happy Gilmore (and a few other of his less profane movies). They think Kevin James is equally hilarious  (yes, I took them to see Mall Cop 2 this year). I am happy to say that the adult situations involving Martha Stewart and Serena Williams, went over their head. 

As expected, upon returning home they began researching Pac-Man, Tetris and Donkey Kong. It is likely that this genre will turn into a new special interest to join their other interests. The discussions have begun about (their) “sequel” in which 1990’s games will appear (in particular, Sonic the Hedgehog). . This is one way they process new material – by connecting it to familiar material. It’s also how I can gauge whether it’s a “good” movie for them by the reactions afterward. One movie from last summer that made me understand their way of processing, was Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. They didn’t connect to it and their takeaways were that it was ok to say “suck” a lot and throw trash cans when they are angry.

Pixels had some familiar scenes  for me – although trying to explain who Hall and Oates were; and what Fantasy Island was about was interesting. IHowever, anything that generates reciprocal conversation and further exploring, is a yes for this autism family.

To the People Who Told My Niece She Was Too Fat To Cosplay 

I came across this picture on my 16 year old nieces Instagram account recently, with accompanying text chastising those who had made been making remarks on her social media accounts, saying she was too “fat to cosplay”. I asked her if I could share her story; to which she agreed.

  

Cosplay is defined as “the practice of dressing up as a character from a movie, book, or video game”. Comic/Fan/Video game conventions are where many get involved and other events occur depending on location.

Besides my instantaneous outrage from seeing this post, I was saddened by the reality that some people feel the need to spew their foulness under the guise of anonymity.

Cyber-bullying is a reality many of us face. The adage “sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you”, isn’t entirely true. They can and do hurt – and unfortunately, there are also those who feel the need to hide behind a screen and try to make themselves feel better by trying to make others feel bad (AKA trolls). I have wondered who these people really are – are they people who have been hurt themselves and feel the need to hurt others? Are they bullies in real life or is it restricted to the indirect Internet?

So, for those who felt the need to tell Marina that she is too “fat” to cosplay, I would like to tell you a few things about her –

Marina lost 60 pounds over the course of a year because SHE wanted to.  It was initiated by her own motivation to achieve a goal of wearing certain types of clothing while doing cosplay. She lost the weight by changing her eating habits and engaging in a more active lifestyle. She is proud of her success, as are those close to her. 

As her confidence grew, she began to get more involved in the cosplay community and engaged in photo shoots based on scenes from her favorite shows.

Doctor Who Photo Shoot in. NYC
Doctor Who companions

Teen Wolf
 
Grimm (Portland, OR)
 

Maybe I’m biased because she is my niece, but I think she looks fantastic. I understand that the whole idea of cosplay may not make sense to some people, and they may question its significance. That is ok, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. What is not ok is for anyone to “fat-shame” (this is a word Marina has used to describe what these people were doing to her). On the outside, the victim may claim that they don’t care, but deep down – it hurts. It chips away at your confidence. One solution would be to not allow people to see your images, which would likely decrease the chances of body image attacks. In Marina’s case, she has developed a following and regularly mentors others facing the same challenges. 

To those who engage in cyberbullying, I’m sorry that you have that void within yourself that causes you to try and inflict hurt on others, so that you can feel better. It’s pathetic actually.

I would like to end this with a quote from Marina:

“cosplay is for everyone. You can cosplay at any weight, age or gender. Cosplay is about having fun and showing your love for said character creatively. We’re all just nerds dressing up for fun and that’s all it should be about.”

Exactly!

 

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